You want to be a sex God to your lover, the real man and the king of her heart and her body. And you are, if you know Her, know the Goddess. 
It might sound contradictory, but by understanding a woman, by relating to the woman, not only in her, but also in yourself, you become more of a man.
Man, the natural male, the pagan God, you want to fight, conquer and win. Conquer not only things around, but even yourself to the point of breaking- your body or mind.
You fight and win, and this feels good, until you break as a result of this fight. Instead of fighting, try loving: Love and conquer. Instead of conquering your body at every training
despite the pain in your joints, try listening to the body and adjust when you need it. Listen to the body, feel, this is listening to the Goddess, your inner woman.
Follow her call, her wisdom, her advise. She is your guide in any physical activity, including sex. Listen to your Goddess and you will understand women. They say, women have 
more Goddess wisdom in their pinkie then a man in his entire body, this is not entirely true. Women Listen to their bodies much more attentively, and so they know. 
Noone is superior, it's only a matter of paying clese attention. 
Remember another way in which God is perceived: He is what stands behind the creation of the Goddess, behind the creation of the material Universe. He is the 
beginning of all, the mystery, which is may be impossible to comprehend with our created mind, we are only to feel owe before it. Embrace your grandness with all its 
power and responsibility which comes with it- as a man, a husband, a father, a God. 

You want sex, women want intimacy. If you desire a women sexually, but she is cold, it means you are lacking something in your approach.
To get a  hot women in your hands (even if she your wife) you need to learn to be intimate to her. Intimacy does not mean sex alone. 
You can be intimate without a touch. You can make a women desire you without looking at her. 
All you need is to connect to her. Connect mentally- think of her, connect in your heart- fall in love with her, connect emotionally- 
understand what she feels, before you connect physically.
She really needs to feel your presence on all that levels in order to become open to you completely and to let you in her the most sacred places.
You can still have sex without this connection, but it will be a cold physical interaction and
 will not be satisfying, but will leave you feeling empty and bad. Have sex only with a woman you want to or able to - connect. 
You can connect even with someone you have just met and never will see again, and have the most intimate sex, the experience 
you will remember for your life time. Because it was fulfilling to a state of bliss, because you had real union- even if only for an hour.
Afterwards, always thank her for a beautiful gift of intimacy she shared with you, for she gave you her most sacred.
The length of time doesn't matter, you have a union with your wife for a limited time as well- because you both sooner or later going to die.
And you can sleep with your wife every day- automatically, since she is a woman in your bed, and this can be boring and dreadful. 
Why not make it beautiful, since she is already your your woman? You see, usually, to establish a truly deep connection, you need more than an hour. 
Be close to her, talk to her, be brave, be open to each other without fear to be hurt again, forgive in advance,  break the emotional ice of old hurts, if it has been growing 
between you for years and you will have the most beautiful women in your arms once 
again and for live- she is your wife. 
They say: No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying. 

Tolstoy wrote in "Anna Karenena": "If a man truly loves his wife, he will know her more completely, and by knowing
her he will know all women." Tolstoy knew the Goddess.
 Who needs to cheat if you already know all women through your wife? 
Love is the key, take care of your love, grow it like a precious, very beautiful, and a very fragil flower. 
A very fragil flower that blossoms in your hearts.

Worship Her, and she will give back more than you can imagine. You don't love a woman because she's beautiful, She is beautiful because you love her. 
Woman, she is "It", the giver, she gives to whom she chooses. 
Worship Her not to satisfy your greedy lust, but from all your Heart, in silence. If you love a women, passionately, tenderly, with care and respect, 
she, and all of them, will love you back. There is one Goddess stands behind all women, the Goddess who you see in every each of them. 
They will know it without you saying a word of what you know about them. 
Worship is your secret, it is sacret, words can be too much for reveling it, it is more subtle than words. Something they are mezmorized by.

Worship Her on every way- 
In high love,
In every moment of relashionship, 
In melting sex, from subtle sensuality to limitless merge into nothingness.
When you make love to her, hold her sacred, and make her feel she is yours. Listen to her body.
 
Worship is then you approach all of Her in a deep reverence. You can make your love sacred anytime,     
revere her and she will feel your tenderness and respond.     
Being sacred towards each other feels like haven to both, because you      
treat each other like you are Gods, who in fact live in heaven.  
Although you are human too, because you have fears, insecurities and 
vices, and you are imperfect (and so is she) - do not make it an excuse, instead, help each other 
emphasize and cultivate higher self. Be graceful. It's not easy to be a God,      
takes a lots of work to deal with your human nature, but the work is rewarding.      
As a result first thing you'll get is becoming a supreme lover. 
Other things will follow: becoming brilliant in anything you do. If you want      
to be successful in creating a powerful kingdom, dedicate your work to a Goddess. 
Your woman is a physical representative of the Goddess - it helps if she is aware of it - so to worship the 
Goddess herself, do something good for your woman. Bring offrings to the altar of her body-
gifts, , flowers, oyster lunch with champagne, caring touch, complete adoration, a      
sweet kiss and good sex. Any woman will like you for this- not because of the presents, but because you do it 
for the Goddess in her. 

 
Power of Goddess in You: 

She gives devotion for a devotion, she blesses those who revere her with love that fills everything they do or have. 
Those who disrespect her taste her fury. Revere Goddess, the Beautiful. 

She comes as beauty in you, as a woman, as a flower, as a poem. Every time she appears, 
Heavens smile and sing her name. She lives in every person, in every flower, in every poem that makes you fly. 
She is the very essence of all world's beauty, and when you meet her, you know its Her who you met, because your heart sings. 
Krishna plays his flute to Her and Jesus was born of Her and Ravana would never win a battle with Her and I am who adore Her.